Edited by Brad Stetson
Choosing to Survive: Loved Ones of Murder Victims Tell Their Stories reveals in bracing psychological and emotional terms what murder leaves behind. The life-changing grief and staggering personal pain experienced by the loved ones of murder victims is unflinchingly portrayed in this book’s personal essays and interviews, intimate recollections which serve as a sobering and realistic counterpoint to the trivialization and commercialization of murder in American media and popular culture.
The focus throughout the book is on the survival of bereaved parents and other loved ones, and on the heroic choices these anguished people have made to live on in their lives, in the presence of unresolved grief and in some instances unresolved legal cases. Demonstrating the empowering nature of storytelling and personal narrative exposition, this is a book that will press home to the reader the colossal devastation that the murder of a loved one brings to a family. The unique world between these covers is one of searing pain, but also one of love unvanquished. Choosing to Survive conveys the precious value of life, the horror of homicide, and the power of the human spirit.
“As I read Choosing to Survive, I remembered the murder of my son Aaron–but more than that, I was reminded of the strength, faith, goodness and unity in the stories of we who have survived the evil of homicide. I am grateful for this beautiful book and highly recommend it.”
—Kathleen O’Hara, M. A., LPC, author of A Grief Like No Other: Surviving the Violent Death of Someone You Love
“Losing someone you love is difficult. What can be even more difficult is living a life without them. In Choosing to Survive: Loved Ones of Murder Victims Tell Their Stories, Brad Stetson takes the reader on a journey no one wants to remember, but no one who has experienced it can forget. Sharing stories of anger, disbelief, and searching for justice, we see these survivors show strength, determination, and a desire to honor their loved ones in ways that would surely make their loved ones proud. As a mother of a murdered son, I empathized with those seeking justice. As a recovered survivor, I have become a licensed counselor helping others experiencing loss and grief. Not just a book for those who have experienced the murder of a loved one, Choosing to Survive can help readers become aware and gain understanding of an unthinkable event.”
—Mary Jane Cronin, M. S., LMHC, author of November Mourning and Writing Through Your Grief