Grief Digest Articles
The Gray Area of Grief
“Did you know you can pause your cable while you grieve?” the
customer service representative offered. My eyes grew large. My mouth dropped open, then transitioned
to a smirk. Freshly widowed, I called the cable provider in hopes of downgrading
to the cheapest plan. I needed to reduce my monthly expenses, and pausing cable
wasn’t a terrible idea. It would allow me to live in the land between cable and
no cable.But I was taken aback by the lack of compassion. I assumed the
agent would offer
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Mar 7th 2023
How to stay fighting when you feel the world is against you? Hold on.
Written by J. Lewis III
(John L. Clark III.) To people dealing with
grief, it seems like the world is constantly against them. Honestly, it is not
personal; life is an equal-opportunity screw-off. Anyone can get it, but
although that is the case, navigating through all the minutia that seems to be in
your way is challenging. Life is easy, but living it is hard. It is one reason
why the world’s suicide rate is so high. Over 800,000 people fall victim
annually. It is not that some people we
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Mar 7th 2023
Pilgrimage
I started planting roses and for a few years it
was this peaceful respite that I looked forward to each summer. Radiant petals would bloom, rising out of
cold, lifeless soil bursting into an explosion of color.Early May, I started the cycle again and for
weeks the roses were vibrant and rich with life. My dad died and I realized I was no better at grief than I
had been before. For two days we clung to the tiniest sliver of hope. We showed up, we stood vigil, we prayed,
we cried. I watched m
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Nov 15th 2022
The Ghost of Christmas Past
Unlike Ebenezer Scrooge’s ghost, my “ghost of Christmas past,” didn’t haunt me with bad deeds, greediness or distant memories. Instead, it caused an intense aching pain that validated my loss of dreams. For many holidays after the death of my son, Chad, the ghost of Christmas past could haunt my memories and shake my spirit long before the air was filled with the miracles and magic of the holiday season. The chains that linked me to holidays-gone-by were ever so real.Prior to Chad’s death,
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Nov 15th 2022
Moonlight
As I walked into your bedroom last night
I noticed a bright light on the floor
I know it was you shining down
I laid my hands on the light
The light was translucent
I could see it shining through my fingers
For a moment I felt the warmth
Of your body that once rested there
I know you were telling me
That your spirit is still here
Combining your spirit with mine
In the only way you can
Not wanting to release my touch
Pressing harder and longer
As if fearful that you won't
Vis
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Oct 14th 2022