Grief Digest Articles

by Nan Zastrow “Gonna need a bigger boat”when adversity changes your relationship with grief “Dear God, be good to me…. the sea is so big, and my boat is so small.” The 50th anniversary of the Jaws movies recently aired on television,  and I decided to binge watch the series. Of course, I anticipated and waited for the iconic line:  “Gonna need a bigger boat.” Delighted, I smiled at its familiarity. I hit the rewind and listened again. It reso …

Nancy Harrison At my age, I’ve learned that the conversations that matter most are the ones about real life - the messy, beautiful, complicated parts that make us human. We talk about family, about memories, about the people we’ve loved and lost. We share stories about our children and grandchildren, worry about their futures, and marvel at how the world has changed. Health becomes a frequent topic, not in a morbid way, but practically - comparing doctors, sharing what works, ce …

By Heather Hattie-Mae Mahaney For as long as I can remember, music was our language. My late husband used to make me mixed tapes — carefully crafted collections of songs that somehow said all the things we did not need to speak aloud - things that we felt when the music played. His love for music ran deep, across every genre, and it was something we shared since childhood. I inherited it from my mother; he from his stepmother. Both women filled our homes with melodies. In high school, he c …

By Ama There’s a kind of grief that doesn't come with casseroles or condolences. It doesn’t wear black or take time off work. No one calls to check in. There’s no ceremony, no eulogy. But it can hollow you out just the same. It’s the grief for the life you should have had. I’m talking about the grief that lives in people like me, people who grew up without safety, without care, without anyone to tell them they mattered. People who were hurt and then blamed for it. W …

By Harikleia Sirmans Orthodox Easter had always been a joyful day for my family in Greece, roasting lambs, cracking red eggs, drinking wine, and dancing. But Easter in April 2012 was tragic. I was shopping at Sally’s in Georgia, where I’d made my home since 2000, when my cell phone rang with news that would bridge the 5,500 miles between my two worlds. It was my husband asking me to meet him at our house. “What is it?” I asked. “Just come home and I’ll tell y …