Grief Digest Articles

Grief Ebbs and Flowsby Shelley RamseyGrief ebbs and flows like the ocean tide. Some waves rise to engulf us and suck us into the undercurrent. Others cause us to merely loose our footing and throw us off balance. In the first years after my seventeen-year-old’s death, there were many life-threatening tidal waves that knocked me over and left me gasping for air. There seemed to be no rhyme or reason when each would hit, and their timing was completely unpredictable.When tossed about by the waves …

The MittensLast year about this time, you wanted to give me a present.I pushed your wheelchair to Macy’s.We walked around and I choose a few things.I really didn’t need anything, but I knew a gift was important to you.Maybe you didn’t notice, but I paid for the items I liked and you approved.One was a pair of very nice black mittens with fur around the cuffs.I didn’t need mittens, but I liked these.They were warm and lightweight.They looked like “lady mittens” like everything else at Macy’sIn th …

It’s here. Not quite available to us all, but someday it will be, and we will be faced with the decision: to take it and reduce the effect of our bad memories or continue to suffer with them.On the surface it sounds fairly straightforward. A negative life experience continues to cause problems; we take a pill and the negative effect of the memory is nearly gone, or at least significantly reduced. According to the research, the memory is still there; it just doesn’t hurt as much. Other related me …

DOES GRIEF HURT?THAT AND OTHER ODD QUESTIONSDoes grief hurt? That’s an excellent question that those persons who have never experienced what I refer to as “crushing, gut-busting, overwhelming, debilitating grief,” might legitimately ask. Why not? It isn’t much different than asking if the impending needle that a nurse is about to poke in your arm is going to hurt. I think most people would like to anticipate future pain in any form. That way you can begin working on the remedies for the pain far …

IntroductionThe strong emotions that you feel after experiencing the loss of a loved one can cause confusion and painful misunderstanding. Knowing how to mourn and move forward throughout this period of time without getting stuck in the dark is tormenting (especially, when you are unsure as to how you should manage thoughts and feelings.) By learning how to go through the stages of healing you'll have the opportunity to regain your functional ability and work toward a peace of mind with the righ …